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Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 16.07.2007, 13:14It was just a question of time ...
I did spent the weekend in hospital !!! Now Iīm back home, but still do feel weak ... I guess, Iīll be online all afternoon, because Iīm not allowed to be very active.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 16.07.2007, 14:21
Oh Anne,
What happened to put you in there? I'm very happy you are home now and can rest up.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 16.07.2007, 15:15
oh well, my body decided to take a break ! Too many things came together I guess. I mean you know that I never really had a break from sorrows and trouble since I got seperated from my ex 2 years ago and I always managed it to go on and on and on ... that was just fine and it worked. Now we had this crazy weather - we had really low temps and rain till Friday and then all by a sudden we have this extremely hot weather !!! Way too hot (36 °C) !!! I already didnīt feel well on Sat morning. It was the third day in a row I had to get up early and didnīt really sleep - then no food and of course I didnīt drink enough again !!! I know, I know, I know !!! So I went to the Volksfest with Mellie and it was still pretty warm outside. We had maybe 4 glasses of champagne in 5 hours, which wasnīt too bad - but I forgot to drink some water or go and get me something to eat ! The band was great and I was in a good mood. Suddenly Mellie disappeared and I went over to talk to my sister and some friends ... I really wanted to go home together with them, but then met two of my "Monday women" and so I stayed. I felt that something was wrong with me - from one to the other second I was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO tired and just wanted to sleep !!! It was crazy - I only remember that I was telling Judith that Iīd better go home and next thing I know is people surrounding me me laying on the ground. The emergency doctor was talking to me and they were telling me not to get up, cause I was bleeding real bad from two injuries on my head (great job, Mrs Schröder!). They already called my son over and he was yelling at me first, cause he was shocked, but then he stayed with me all the time - canīt even remember how I got into the hospital! All this was so weird !!! Well they had to fix my left eyebrow and a nice wound on the back of my head - it first didnīt hurt, but now it does !!! In the hospital they checked on my head doing a CT and now I am on a 24-hour ECG. I will have to go to the hospital again tomorrow morning and then they will write a letter to my doctor. I donīt know if I will be allowed to go to work on Thursday. I guess, it depends on my head.
Well the doctor told me to be more careful with my body - she said itīs a suicide on rates what Iīm doing. But of course, they donīt understand why Iīm doing it, cause they are not in my situation and itīs not even in purpose that I do this to my body ... I hope they wonīt send me to a psychologist.
Now the people are talking bad about me again. Of course, Iīve been soooooooooooooooooo drunk and couldnīt control myself anymore. Letīs wait for the gossip to come - I shouldnīt care about it, but of course I do!
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 16.07.2007, 16:20
I'm just thankful you are not hurt worse than you were. Wish I was there I'd taken care of you. I know the pain you went through - I went through it myself and unless someone has been in our shoes - they can't imagine. I also pushed myself on and didn't let it get me down even though deep down I was hurting. I managed to hide the hurt well.
I bet you had a heat stroke which would cause you to faint. Also you didn't drink any water or eat anything so that added to the problem...it doesn't sound like you had too much over a 5 hour period. Your body was just crying out for some nourishment.
Need to run for a bit will be back soon.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 16.07.2007, 17:04
you know the funny thing about was, that I was a bit mad when I woke up again, cause it felt sooooooooooooooooooooooo good to finally "rest". I felt so good when I passed out - I mean, you donīt feel anything and didnīt even feel myself falling down. It really was from one second to the other - there was no panic or something ... it felt just good. The doctor told me that the body is totally relaxed - the muscles are relaxed and thatīs what is making you feel good, when you are stressed out. As long as you are still breathing and stuff there is nothing bad about passing out. I was lucky that Judithīs husband is good in First Aid. He is a fireman and so he took care of me while they were waiting for the emergency doctor. Judith told me that there was blood all over the place - good I didnīt see it! I guess thatīs why Daniel was so shocked, cause he saw me laying down there in my own blood! It must have been scary. I took some pics, but you canīt really see anything. You can only imagine the bracket they were using to fix my head ... they stapled it back together :?
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 16.07.2007, 17:32
newnativspirit wrote: you know the funny thing about was, that I was a bit mad when I woke up again, cause it felt sooooooooooooooooooooooo good to finally "rest". I felt so good when I passed out - I mean, you donīt feel anything and didnīt even feel myself falling down. It really was from one second to the other - there was no panic or something ... it felt just good. The doctor told me that the body is totally relaxed - the muscles are relaxed and thatīs what is making you feel good, when you are stressed out. As long as you are still breathing and stuff there is nothing bad about passing out. I was lucky that Judithīs husband is good in First Aid. He is a fireman and so he took care of me while they were waiting for the emergency doctor. Judith told me that there was blood all over the place - good I didnīt see it! I guess thatīs why Daniel was so shocked, cause he saw me laying down there in my own blood! It must have been scary. I took some pics, but you canīt really see anything. You can only imagine the bracket they were using to fix my head ... they stapled it back together :?
Well it's nice to have a lull period - this morning I felt like an octupyus. Maybe I can get through a message without interuptions.
You were very lucky not to have hurt yourself any worse that you did. Your injuries do not look bad at all. Did they put any stitches in. Head wounds bleed very bad - even the minor ones. You need to let your body heal now and if that means staying in bed and resting - you need to.
Passing out is just like that a relaxing feeling - the body just shuts down and I still feel the heat played a big roll in it - not the drinking - too you were stressed and for a few before you were very tired. It's like the time I pushed myself into pnumonia. I remember drifting off and was down for a full week, they had to wake me to give me my meds. The second week wasn't too bad but it took me a while to come out of that one. We can push and push our bodies to the point where we do collapse....and with stress and pain - makes for a lethal combo.
I'm just happy that you are ok and didn't hurt yourself badly. Do you have a follow-up with the doctors.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 16.07.2007, 19:09
They do check on my heart now and thatīs about it. Then my doctor will get a letter and he will have to make further decisions ... Iīm going there to check on my blood pressure frequently anyway. At least my doctor was right: he told me months ago, that if I wonīt take care of myself something like that will happen to me.
Bad thing about it: all this costs me some extra money !!! You have to pay 10 Euro each day for your stay at a hospital. Itīs only 20 Euro, but Iīll also have to pay the emergency car ...
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 16.07.2007, 20:20
newnativspirit wrote: They do check on my heart now and thatīs about it. Then my doctor will get a letter and he will have to make further decisions ... Iīm going there to check on my blood pressure frequently anyway. At least my doctor was right: he told me months ago, that if I wonīt take care of myself something like that will happen to me.
Bad thing about it: all this costs me some extra money !!! You have to pay 10 Euro each day for your stay at a hospital. Itīs only 20 Euro, but Iīll also have to pay the emergency car ...
I know about extra money - I have to save up around 1500 for my part of my oral surgery and new tooth...at least I don't have to pay the full 3,200.00.
I have a 50.00 co-pay for emergency room visits and then my insurance takes care of the rest...for the most. The last time I was in the emergency room was back in 04 when I had a severe asthma attack - my total bill was over $3,000.00 -
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 16.07.2007, 20:20
OMG!!!! How are you doing now? Is there anything I can do to help you?
Don't care about the rumors people will spread about you. It's important that you know what happened. The others will forget in anyway. Just wait a few days.
But to be honest... I was, a bit, waiting for something like that to come, because you didn't feel well so often and I knew you didn't drink and eat enough (and I told you to eat and drink). I don't want to be mean, believe me. I'm worried. It's just a bit your own fault. And mine, too. Because I could have done more to help you, to make you drink and eat more etc. But what has happened has happened and we can't change it anymore. Just don't do it again. Please don't, ok?
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 16.07.2007, 20:25
Idril wrote: OMG!!!! How are you doing now? Is there anything I can do to help you?
Don't care about the rumors people will spread about you. It's important that you know what happened. The others will forget in anyway. Just wait a few days.
But to be honest... I was, a bit, waiting for something like that to come, because you didn't feel well so often and I knew you didn't drink and eat enough (and I told you to eat and drink). I don't want to be mean, believe me. I'm worried. It's just a bit your own fault. And mine, too. Because I could have done more to help you, to make you drink and eat more etc. But what has happened has happened and we can't change it anymore. Just don't do it again. Please don't, ok?
I guess we're just going to have to keep a closer eye on her Idril. I do sincerely wish we lived closer together - then I could be there for you and Idril too.
Idril, we're going to have to keep our eyes on Anne....and make sure she takes care of herself.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 16.07.2007, 20:31
yep!
Re: It was just a question of time ...
redc - 16.07.2007, 20:49
That is shocking but very good to hear you are better. Please don't worry about the gossip, it's all meaningless and said by people who don't know you or care. I'm sure resting now will help - take care, rest, eat, drink water (all the good stuff!).
Re: It was just a question of time ...
evenstar - 17.07.2007, 04:06
OMG - I hope you're okay, Anne! This is not good at all, but must admit that I had feared something like this myself. I wish we all lived close by so we could look out for each other.
I know it must be difficult when you probably feel like you need to be "supermum" all of the time, just as long as you don't forget to take care of your own needs too!
Hope you're feeling better... :cry:
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 17.07.2007, 12:58
I`M FINE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for your words and I know it is my own fault - as long as your body is working you never do think about anything like that !!! But now I will take care of myself !!!
I went to hospital this morning and they told me that it can take them some days to send a letter to my doctor, but I asked for this letter so I can bring it over to my doctorīs office this afternoon. I want him to write me a certificate that I canīt work this upcoming weekend. I need to rest a bit more! It doesnīt make sense to get back to my old routine that soon. They say itīs gonna be hot this weekend again and that wouldnīt be good for me to be in that sticky hall working 8 hours without regular breaks. So I want to stay home !!! Damn, I donīt care what they gonna say and if I will get in trouble then ! Itīs my body I need to take care of now and I promise that I will eat and drink !!! At least one large bottle of water a day !!! No sports this week and only water and lots of good and healthy food !!! I promise !
My head still hurts a bit, but the ears are better. They were hurting so bad after I must have hurt my cervicals when I felt down on the ground. That can cause a real bad pain in your ears. I can handle the headache - thatīs not too bad and I will ask my doctor to order me a few massages.
I enjoy being with my girls - today we will go and get us some ice cream !!! They wonīt stay with their dad tonight, cause they want to stay here and we will watch a Barbie movie (hopefully I will fall asleep soon - lol)
AND NOW DON`T WORRY ABOUT ME ANYMORE !!! :lol:
Iīm doing fine *dancing around in the room*
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 17.07.2007, 14:21
Friends can't help but worry about those they care about.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 17.07.2007, 20:43
Thanks - and thatīs good to know, cause I just had to experience that even your own family isnīt there to help you.
Had a discussion with my mom. She was supporting my son when I had a fight with him about helping me a bit more like he promised a few weeks ago. In her eyes heīs already doing enough (although he doesnīt do much) - he is the good one and I am the bad one !!! Like usual ! I ended up crying real bad and she was just like "stop it now - you are childish!" I yelled at her that itīs always like that and that I was only loved when I stayed quiet and "functioned" the way they wanted me to be. I was never allowed to cry or be in a sad mood, cause it made my dad angry. And Iīm still not. I asked her why she canīt just leave me alone, because she is no help. In her opinion that was mean and I should think about what I am doing to my kids when I do behave like this. She didnīt understand when I was trying to explain to her that my kids only do learn, that even a mom is sad sometimes and needs to cry. They know that I feel better afterwards and they are allowed to cry as well, when they are sad. But in my momīs eyes I do have to be the super-mom that is never sad and always in a good mood. I told my mom that maybe that was one of the reasons for my "accident". All this pressure! I know that my parents expect me to function and my mom is always telling me that she doesnīt like the fact, that the kids are staying with their other granny and with their dad that often. "They donīt know where they belong to anymore ..." which is not true, but she is telling me too many times. I hate my mom for doing this to me. She doesnīt realize that this is no help at all. She wants me to feel bad and keep the kids at home (so she can be the one to take care of them).
My son was mean to me as well ... it seems like they blame my accident on me only. It was my fault cause I didnīt eat and drink. Sure - thatīs true. But that wasnīt the only reason! Maybe they should ask themselves why I canīt eat? I guess I already mentioned that I canīt eat, when I have problems and you know that I do have a lot of problems and that I worry about too many things. Maybe I shouldnīt worry that much, but I do and there is no button you can press and just turn my thoughts off. Even in good moments you do carry all this with you and although you donīt think about it all the time you still do have it on your mind somehow. Thatīs why I often canīt eat ... plus when Iīm alone I am just too tired to cook for myself. Nobody is cooking for me! When I got off work from the early shift I often do think that I will make me some good food later and in the evening Iīm often too tired to do it ... when I work on the late shift I am always in a hurry to get ready and canīt eat and when I get off late I only want to sleep. At work I canīt eat, cause itīs making me so tired and I need my energy to finish work. So I only have a snack with me ... Everybody is telling me that I need to change it. But I canīt change the circumstances - itīs not only up to me. If my son would see that he really needs to support me a bit more, it would help. But my mom keeps on telling him, that heīs such a good boy already doing enough. She already did that with my brother and for some time my sister and I hated him real bad, cause he was the good one while we were "only" the girls (that wasnīt good enough). Now she starts telling my son that he is sooooooooooooooo special and he starts acting like it. There is nothing I can do and it makes me feel helpless and sad. And then she is always like "stop yelling at him - stop speaking so loud - people can hear you! Behave now! There is no need to cry !" How does she know. If I feel like crying she should let me cry.
She came back in here a few minutes ago and I told Milena that the first thing that granny is gonna say will be "did you calm down again?" Iīve heard this sentence soooooooooooooooooooooooo many times already and that was exactly what she said. I said that there is no reason for me to calm down. Now I am so ungrateful cause Iīm the one who doesnīt realize how much everybody is helping me ! Sure they do help me a lot and I am grateful for this help, but I could have needed a hug tonight instead of getting told that I shouldnīt be crying . My parents never knew how to do this, so how should they know it today? Itīs not always only the financial help or that they do help me with the kids - no, sometimes there is just a hug needed! She also criticized me that I want to ask my doctor for a certification to have another weekend off. "You canīt do this! You will loose your job!" "oh mom, if you would have listened to me more careful, you would have realized that I will loose my job anyways". I donīt see any sense in going to work with this headache and I still do feel weak. I told her that I will go to work and that she can visit me in hospital again then. She never had to work in a factory, so she has no idea what it means. So she is helping me again by making me feel bad abuot not working this weekend. Ainīt this a real great support? She really understands my situation. I thought that my accident is making my family a bit more aware of the situation I am in and make them see that I need more support, but instead of getting help I only do get more and more critics. I should have known. My family never was there for me in situations like this - they never think about me as the person I am. They do care about my kids and that our family looks good for the people, but they never even tried to understand my feelings. I only get their respect when I work hard and do the things they expect me to do, but whenever I start to destroy their idea of my life, I am a bad person again and they disappear. I really should have known - I went through this sooooo many times. I guess, there is only one thing that will make them think a bit more intense about me: thatīs when Iīm dead! And even then they will critcize me, because it will be my fault again ! Itīs a shame when you donīt get the respect you should get.
I have a bad headache know and I am in a very sad mood. But be for sure that this will be different again tomorrow! I managed it to resist in all these years, so why change this ? Itīs my life and if they wonīt support me, then Iīll do it all by myself - again !!! Iīll make it somehow!
Re: It was just a question of time ...
eddiefever - 17.07.2007, 20:53
:o í was so shocked when i started reading all this
& so worried
i'm so Glad your ok now & are listening to your body ( and hope you'll keep doing that for the rest of your life)
we don't want to be shocked again :(
& forget about the Gossip ,if it wasn't you than they would have gossiped about somone else & next week something new is going to happen & they'll spend all their overtime on that
To Idril: Don't think that your fault as wel ,you can't make someone do something when they won't want or don't take the time for it
Dont'forget ,you mentioned it to her ,so there's no blame on you
to both girls HUGS
Luv,
miss
Re: It was just a question of time ...
eddiefever - 17.07.2007, 21:26
aww girl ,i saw you posted before i posted ,so here's my reply to your last post:
1st of HUGS ,HUGS ,HUGS
arg ,wish i could do more than that ,like giving a real one
2nd ,He is Your Son !!!! ,he has to respect you & discuss this with You when it comes to helping more ,your mother is not in charge ,You are ,he has to realize that ,He made a promiss to help more & he saw the accident & was shocked & worried ,He has to realize that things like that can happen again if he doesn't help out more ,does he want this to happen to his mother again :? :?:
3th ,everything i said about your Son ,also counts for your mom ,like showing more respect ,she lives in Your house (right?) & helping out a bit more as wel (if she's able to do that ,don't know about her medical condition) ,she should also realize that the accident was a sign
How can she think that you are ready for work again ,she doesn't know how you are feeling (physical & metal ?) ,ok you might get fired & you need the money ,but if you don't start to take care of yourself ,which also means to Rest you could/will end up in the hospital again or even worse (which i don't want to think about :shock: :cry: )
4th it's good to cry!!! ,to show how you feel ,also towards your children . it makes you human ,it makes the bond between parent & child stronger
No One is Super-woman & Super-Mom ,not your mom & not you
No one is perfect ,everyone has problems
everyone have to face them & try to solve them ,getting support & help from family & friends would help A LOT
your body gave you signs & now your listening to that ,maybe your mom thinks she's helping ,but she's only making it worse :?
so listen to your Gutts ,your own feelings & don't sail away from that ,cause this can become a dangerous situation
wouldn't it be good to talk with her alone & you with your son alone ,so you can explain & they can explain without interfering of another party (person) ?
i hope that everyone (you ,your mom & your son ,can stay respectfull to each other while talking :? )
:? i hope i don't get off wierd ,i'm just worried Anne
i care ,we all care & support you ,eventhough it's virtual ,i hope it gives you a little more strenght
I have you in my prayers as always :)
Luv,
miss
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 17.07.2007, 21:40
Sometimes friends are more like family than your family is.
It makes my blood boild that your mom & son are treating you like they are. I know kids and parents don't always see eye to eye and there are times I actually wish I was not a parent and had no one but myself to content with - but that is not the case. Sounds like your mom is being childish.
I'm sending you a dozen hugs sis.....remeber that I love ya.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 17.07.2007, 21:44
hey eddiefever - looks like we were all posting at the same time.
I also forgoet to say "don't listen to the gossip" - some will say anything just to keep something going. We all know you and love you - and maybe this accident happened for a reason - to make you slow down and take better care of yourself.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
eddiefever - 17.07.2007, 21:56
:lol: yeah i noticed
it's true what you say about Friends & family
many times i felt that my family were strangers while i saw my friends as brothers & sisters
unfortunatly you don't choose your family ,but you got to live with them & make the best out fo it
but that doens't mena that everythingt hey say & think is right & the only way
No ,everyone has control over their OWN life & if you feel like your not ,than something is wrong & you got to change that
sorry to get so of topic :?
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 17.07.2007, 22:07
eddiefever wrote: :lol: yeah i noticed
it's true what you say about Friends & family
many times i felt that my family were strangers while i saw my friends as brothers & sisters
unfortunatly you don't choose your family ,but you got to live with them & make the best out fo it
but that doens't mena that everythingt hey say & think is right & the only way
No ,everyone has control over their OWN life & if you feel like your not ,than something is wrong & you got to change that
sorry to get so of topic :?
You didn't get so off topic and you are right - everyone has to make the changes themselves if they are not happy.
And I happen to agree - "you can't choose your family" you just have to make the best of it....and take the good with the bad - but sometimes it's very difficult.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 17.07.2007, 22:23
Thanks girls !!! It means a lot to me !!! It really does !!!!
Talking to my mom and my son doesnīt make sense! Feelings never existed in my family and never will !!! We have to function and there is no place for feelings! I was talking to my sister and all she had to say was "be honest to yourself! Did you really expect our mom to act different? You know that sheīs like that." And she is right. Itīs always been like that. She had to hide her own feelings for years and finally made it by taking lots of pills. I donīt want to end up like her. But she never listened to anyone - she is a weak person somehow. She only wants a "peaceful" life without any problems and troubles and because we are living in the same house, she always wants me to stay quiet so my father wonīt hear that something is going on. I once told her that she may have lived her life the way he wanted her to live and obeyed, but I wonīt. He is not the one to tell me when I am allowed to speak up - he doesnīt care about it, so why should I. This is the bad thing about living together with your parents. They do help me a lot, but it seems like in return they expect me to become their little girl again and do what they want me to do! They need to understand that I am old enough.
No, talking to my mom doesnīt make sense - she would call me childish and wouldnīt even try to understand. Because Iīm not a child anymore tears are forbidden! I donīt care. My kids can handle that. I was talking to Milena tonight and she asked me why my mom canīt comfort me when Iīm sad, because thatīs what I do with my kids when they are sad. I told her that my mom never learned how to that and promised that I will always comfort her if she wants me to. She was happy about that and hugged me. So I really donīt have to worry about my girls !!!
Thanks for your hugs !!! I already do feel much better !!! I will talk to my doctor tomorrow and may get some psychiatric help for my mom - lol
Re: It was just a question of time ...
evenstar - 18.07.2007, 04:48
Oh Anne, I feel so bad for you! I can actually relate to your relationship with your parents quite well. I always had to bite my tongue around my father cos he was always right, and the resentment really built up after a while! Just remember that there is no right or wrong way to feel - the way you feel is the way you feel. It's better to let it out than bottle it up anyway.
I have a friend who is going through a similar situation that you are going through with your Mum. Her and her kids live with her parents and her kids don't listen to her because her parents are constantly undermining her authority! I said to her, "They shouldn't be talking to you like that in front of your kids cos now they don't respect you and they think that your parents are in charge". If she tells the kids to do something then her Dad will say, "No, you don't have to do that". How wrong is that? Your mother needs to realise that you are in charge of your kids, and she can no longer tell you what to do just because she lives with you. You are a grown woman!
It's true what you girls said, I've always said that friends are the family that you choose for yourself. I mean, I do love my family and will always support them, but if I'd been able to choose my blood family...
Anyway, glad to hear you're feeling a bit better. I'm sending lots and lots of hugs express post from Australia to Germany :P
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 18.07.2007, 14:27
I went through that with my mom and grandmother when Keri was a baby. I hated moving back home after the divorce but had no choice....I wasn't even allowed to raise my voice to her.
My dad was not real affectionate either - he was military and a very strong disclipinarian.
Mom fusses because she thinks I'm doing too much. I must admit I've been so tired at times and it seems I can't get enough rest. She thinks the house needs to be spotless however she does not want to do anything but sleep and watch TV....these last few months have been difficult and stressful for me and I just try to let it roll off. Too she worries about everything. Keri helps but she's working long hours this summer herself.
I'm just very thankful I have all of you as my sisters....
Re: It was just a question of time ...
eddiefever - 18.07.2007, 16:01
i'm glad you feel a bit better :D
i agree with evenstar ,what she said in short ,is what i tried to say in my Big chapter :lol: (as always i can't shorten my posts :? )
i'm very Happy that Melina is there to support you & give you a shoulder to cry on when you need to
at least someone near you is there for you
PS: your welcome
we all love ya ,never forget that :D
Prayers ,Love &Hugs,
miss
PS: Nancy ,i hope your situation will change soon as wel
why isn't your mother helping in the household?
also i always say ,when someone has a complaint but doens't help change it ,than they have no right to speak (it't just my opinion)
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 18.07.2007, 17:44
enelya06 wrote: Sometimes friends are more like family than your family is.
It makes my blood boild that your mom & son are treating you like they are. I know kids and parents don't always see eye to eye and there are times I actually wish I was not a parent and had no one but myself to content with - but that is not the case. Sounds like your mom is being childish.
I'm sending you a dozen hugs sis.....remeber that I love ya.
Amen to that..... :x
I'm glad you're feeling better, Anne, and I'm glad you have your friends with you. it's a shame what you're family is doing to you, but someday they will regret it, I'm sure :twisted:
Well, *big hug* for you and get well soon.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 18.07.2007, 17:54
eddiefever wrote: i'm glad you feel a bit better :D
i agree with evenstar ,what she said in short ,is what i tried to say in my Big chapter :lol: (as always i can't shorten my posts :? )
i'm very Happy that Melina is there to support you & give you a shoulder to cry on when you need to
at least someone near you is there for you
PS: your welcome
we all love ya ,never forget that :D
Prayers ,Love &Hugs,
miss
PS: Nancy ,i hope your situation will change soon as wel
why isn't your mother helping in the household?
also i always say ,when someone has a complaint but doens't help change it ,than they have no right to speak (it't just my opinion)
Mom tells me she just doesn't feel like doing anything and doesn't know what is wrong with her...she use to not be that way. She complains about something most of the time...she is hard of hearing and we have to make our voices louder - which she insists we're hollering at her and she starts to cry...yet she won't ge a hearing device. She bought a small roll cabinet to put her papers and stuff in so the kitchen table would be clear - that was 3 weeks ago - the kitchen table is still cluttered. that week I was off all she did was "sleep" 95% of the time. I told her to ask her doctor what the problem could be - now that Keri is getting a car - I look for mom's to sit in the drive way and rust. She technically does not need to be driving but does like to go to the grocery or visit with friends from time to time.....she said she'd give up driving in 3 years (she'll be 90) I wish she'd give it up now.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 18.07.2007, 19:55
Sounds like we all do have problems with our families ... :wink: ...
my family is really weird and although Iīm very happy that my parents are helping me out with soooooooooooooo many things I sometimes wish I wouldnīt have moved in together with them. Actually we are living in two different appartements, but my mom is at my door several times in the evening - checking on me and the kids. She is very lonely and thatīs why she likes to be close to us. She canīt accept that I donīt feel the same way. I do respect their privacy and so they should respect mine, but I guess thatīs just because she is my mom. Last week she told me that she will never stop to worry about us. I mean, itīs nice that she is still wishing that we are doing fine, but there is no need for being together every single day. She was in the hospital right away that Saturday and didnīt see a need for it. It would have been ok, if she would have showed up on Sunday. She had to watch my sisterīs boys and she needed her sleep. My son was with me, so I wasnīt alone ... but I guess thatīs just being a mom! She is worried all the time and that is making her sick, cause she is always kind of nervous when we are not at home ... thatīs not good. Then I should be worried all the time when my son is going out ... Iīm not! I trust him and just to think of all the things that could happen to him would make me go crazy - what sense does this make? Today he went to Trier to a special soccer game! Some celebrities of the Formula 1 are playing against some local teams and the money goes to UNICEF. The place will be crowded ! I wish for him to have lots of fun. I want him to enjoy his youth! My mom will stay up until he will be back, cause something could happen to him - this is so sick. Next time I will go out, she will probably die :wink:
Thanks for all the hugs by the way - I already have some bruises !!! LOL
Itīs good to know that I have friends like you !
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 18.07.2007, 20:35
Yes I think we all have problems with our families.
I always said when I became a parent - I'd try not to be like mine. Mom will go to bed when Keri is out late - provided she's in my car and not hers but she does get up from time to time. She is worried because Keri is going to a concert tonight (in my car) but I'm not really. Like you, I trust her and if I sit around and thought about all the things that could happen I'd be a baseket case. I will be getting her car tomorrow :shock: - I just hope she takes good care of it. Her dad bought it for her.
There are times I wish mom lived apart from me and Keri but with her age - we really need to keep an eye out on her....but it can be stressful at home.
It's quite here today.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 19.07.2007, 08:58
I wonder what kind of mum I would be :lol:
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 19.07.2007, 14:22
you will be a good one...I was scared stiff right before Keri was born - all sorts of thoughts went through my head but after she got here - I did fine.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
eddiefever - 19.07.2007, 14:58
aww Idril ,you'll be a great mom ,for sure !!
& nancy ,i didn't know that your mom was so old ,aaww i hope she will have more energy
btw ,your mom is a lucky lady for being good in shape (wel besides from sleeping ,both my grandmothers were not in good shape at a much younger age)
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 19.07.2007, 15:08
mom got me late in life...see I was adopted. They brought me home when I was 3 days old.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 19.07.2007, 18:47
enelya06 wrote: Yes I think we all have problems with our families.
I always said when I became a parent - I'd try not to be like mine. Mom will go to bed when Keri is out late - provided she's in my car and not hers but she does get up from time to time. She is worried because Keri is going to a concert tonight (in my car) but I'm not really. Like you, I trust her and if I sit around and thought about all the things that could happen I'd be a baseket case. I will be getting her car tomorrow :shock: - I just hope she takes good care of it. Her dad bought it for her.
There are times I wish mom lived apart from me and Keri but with her age - we really need to keep an eye out on her....but it can be stressful at home.
It's quite here today.
As some of you already know, my son had a car accident last night! He was lucky and he and his friends are doing fine. A wildboar decided to ran into the left side of our car! The poor wildboar died and my car is not driveable anymore !!!
I already knew that something happened when the phone was ringing at midnight. Of course, I couldnīt sleep anymore and started thinking about my life ... LOL ... what did I do wrong, that all these bad things do happen to me. Funny thing about it: although itīs bad we are still lucky somehow. But I really could need a break right now. I wonīt have a car for over a week now and I hope that the insurance will pay the bills !!! I try not to think about it that much, but of course itīs on my mind and I really donīt need that right now. Just another thing I canīt change. Iīm happy that my son is doing fine. Although I do trust him, I knew that something like that will happen one day. It was just so funny that we started talking about that yesterday ... but I will still let him go and be able to sleep - lol! As long as he is able to call me and itīs not the police calling me, itīs fine with me ... NO - itīs not! He could have killed someone else in an accident and then he would also be able to make the phonecall ... awwwwwwwwww ... no, I donīt want to think about it! Ok - now I need to calm down again.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 19.07.2007, 19:12
Take in deep breaths and breath out slowly. We have deer that like to run across the road. I'm just thankful your son and his friends were not injured. Cars can be fixed/replaced - lives cannot. To don't dwell on the "what ifs" being a parent I know that is difficult to do. I trust my daughter but it's always in the back of my mind - that phone call after midnight.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Mela - 19.07.2007, 22:10
Idril, Iam sure that you will be a good mother.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 20.07.2007, 09:09
newnativspirit wrote: enelya06 wrote: Yes I think we all have problems with our families.
I always said when I became a parent - I'd try not to be like mine. Mom will go to bed when Keri is out late - provided she's in my car and not hers but she does get up from time to time. She is worried because Keri is going to a concert tonight (in my car) but I'm not really. Like you, I trust her and if I sit around and thought about all the things that could happen I'd be a baseket case. I will be getting her car tomorrow :shock: - I just hope she takes good care of it. Her dad bought it for her.
There are times I wish mom lived apart from me and Keri but with her age - we really need to keep an eye out on her....but it can be stressful at home.
It's quite here today.
As some of you already know, my son had a car accident last night! He was lucky and he and his friends are doing fine. A wildboar decided to ran into the left side of our car! The poor wildboar died and my car is not driveable anymore !!!
I already knew that something happened when the phone was ringing at midnight. Of course, I couldnīt sleep anymore and started thinking about my life ... LOL ... what did I do wrong, that all these bad things do happen to me. Funny thing about it: although itīs bad we are still lucky somehow. But I really could need a break right now. I wonīt have a car for over a week now and I hope that the insurance will pay the bills !!! I try not to think about it that much, but of course itīs on my mind and I really donīt need that right now. Just another thing I canīt change. Iīm happy that my son is doing fine. Although I do trust him, I knew that something like that will happen one day. It was just so funny that we started talking about that yesterday ... but I will still let him go and be able to sleep - lol! As long as he is able to call me and itīs not the police calling me, itīs fine with me ... NO - itīs not! He could have killed someone else in an accident and then he would also be able to make the phonecall ... awwwwwwwwww ... no, I donīt want to think about it! Ok - now I need to calm down again.
OMG!!!!!! :shock:
One bad thing doesn't come alone.... :?
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 20.07.2007, 15:52
itīs so sweet how you translate the German sayings into English ... :)
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Mela - 20.07.2007, 16:05
Idril wrote: newnativspirit wrote: enelya06 wrote: Yes I think we all have problems with our families.
I always said when I became a parent - I'd try not to be like mine. Mom will go to bed when Keri is out late - provided she's in my car and not hers but she does get up from time to time. She is worried because Keri is going to a concert tonight (in my car) but I'm not really. Like you, I trust her and if I sit around and thought about all the things that could happen I'd be a baseket case. I will be getting her car tomorrow :shock: - I just hope she takes good care of it. Her dad bought it for her.
There are times I wish mom lived apart from me and Keri but with her age - we really need to keep an eye out on her....but it can be stressful at home.
It's quite here today.
As some of you already know, my son had a car accident last night! He was lucky and he and his friends are doing fine. A wildboar decided to ran into the left side of our car! The poor wildboar died and my car is not driveable anymore !!!
I already knew that something happened when the phone was ringing at midnight. Of course, I couldnīt sleep anymore and started thinking about my life ... LOL ... what did I do wrong, that all these bad things do happen to me. Funny thing about it: although itīs bad we are still lucky somehow. But I really could need a break right now. I wonīt have a car for over a week now and I hope that the insurance will pay the bills !!! I try not to think about it that much, but of course itīs on my mind and I really donīt need that right now. Just another thing I canīt change. Iīm happy that my son is doing fine. Although I do trust him, I knew that something like that will happen one day. It was just so funny that we started talking about that yesterday ... but I will still let him go and be able to sleep - lol! As long as he is able to call me and itīs not the police calling me, itīs fine with me ... NO - itīs not! He could have killed someone else in an accident and then he would also be able to make the phonecall ... awwwwwwwwww ... no, I donīt want to think about it! Ok - now I need to calm down again.
OMG!!!!!! :shock:
One bad thing doesn't come alone.... :?
Is this a saying? We have almost the same saying in Sweden. :)
Re: It was just a question of time ...
eddiefever - 20.07.2007, 16:13
enelya06 wrote: Take in deep breaths and breath out slowly. We have deer that like to run across the road. I'm just thankful your son and his friends were not injured. Cars can be fixed/replaced - lives cannot. To don't dwell on the "what ifs" being a parent I know that is difficult to do. I trust my daughter but it's always in the back of my mind - that phone call after midnight.
Nancy said what i was thinking :D
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 20.07.2007, 16:34
To Mela:
The saying goes : "Ein Übel kommt selten allein!" LOL
To eddiefever:
you are so right and Iīm thinking the same way. I really donīt care about the car. Itīs the excitement things like that do cause again and I donīt need any of this right now. I need some peaceful time to recover !!!
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 21.07.2007, 16:41
newnativspirit wrote: itīs so sweet how you translate the German sayings into English ... :)
well, I don't know the correct english translations, but as long as everyones understand me... why not? :wink:
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Mela - 21.07.2007, 22:45
newnativspirit wrote: To Mela:
The saying goes : "Ein Übel kommt selten allein!" LOL
To eddiefever:
you are so right and Iīm thinking the same way. I really donīt care about the car. Itīs the excitement things like that do cause again and I donīt need any of this right now. I need some peaceful time to recover !!!
I wish that I understod german. :)
In sweden we say:One accident never come alone.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
eddiefever - 22.07.2007, 01:44
newnativspirit wrote: To Mela:
The saying goes : "Ein Übel kommt selten allein!" LOL
To eddiefever:
you are so right and Iīm thinking the same way. I really donīt care about the car. Itīs the excitement things like that do cause again and I donīt need any of this right now. I need some peaceful time to recover !!!
i understand you ,girl
yes ,in my opinion you've been through enough this past half year & it's time to see the sun coming from behind the clouds again
cause you deserve it girl
hugs,
miss
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 22.07.2007, 07:45
Mela wrote: newnativspirit wrote: To Mela:
The saying goes : "Ein Übel kommt selten allein!" LOL
To eddiefever:
you are so right and Iīm thinking the same way. I really donīt care about the car. Itīs the excitement things like that do cause again and I donīt need any of this right now. I need some peaceful time to recover !!!
I wish that I understod german. :)
In sweden we say:One accident never come alone.
It's quite the same :wink:
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 22.07.2007, 11:30
Nancy can tell us for sure how the saying goes in English, but I think itīs
"it never rains but it pours"
Nancy or evenstar, is that right? Teach us, please!
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 22.07.2007, 19:02
yep, it would be funny to know :wink:
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 23.07.2007, 14:15
Yes the saying "It never rains but it pours" that is commonly said whenever things keep happening...like something bad will happen then right after that - another and so on...
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 23.07.2007, 14:18
then this is the one I was looking for !!! Thanks!
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 23.07.2007, 14:31
thx for translation :wink:
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 23.07.2007, 14:38
no problem - we've quite a few sayings over hear for different things.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 23.07.2007, 20:47
yep, we, too :wink:
Re: It was just a question of time ...
mouseears89 - 23.07.2007, 23:08
First- I would like to extend well wishes to all you ladies for the hard times you have been having since I last checked in. So sorry to hear of all the troubles people have been having. Sending hugs to everyone!!
Second- in regards to the sayings, here's a few I've heard and used.
- When it rains, it pours.
- Problems always come in threes.
- One bad turn deserves another.
- One good turn deserves another. (have no idea where these sayings originated from)
- Misery loves company. (that's my life- whenever something bad happens, there is always something else that happens just to make me feel worse.)
Hope everyone gets some sunshine in their lives soon. Hugs are free- so share them with everyone!!
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 24.07.2007, 10:20
thx for the hugs and the sayings :wink: *hugs back*
Re: It was just a question of time ...
evenstar - 24.07.2007, 11:10
newnativspirit wrote: Nancy can tell us for sure how the saying goes in English, but I think itīs
"it never rains but it pours"
Nancy or evenstar, is that right? Teach us, please!
Looks like Nancy has already given you the answer! I've got a thing for sayings/quotes at the moment.
Right now my favourite one is "The pen is mightier than the sword. Except in a swordfight" :lol: :lol:
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 24.07.2007, 11:12
lol :lol:
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 24.07.2007, 14:10
a few more
"busier than a one armed paperhanger"
"slow as molassas"
"dumber than a box of rocks"
"who died and made you God"
"I'll be dipped in buttermilk"
"don't let it hit you where the good Lord split you"
"get the molassas out ya ass"
any one have any more.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 24.07.2007, 16:12
To mouseears:
Thanks bunches for the hugs !!!! they were desperately needed ... lol
(they are in my hugs collection now, so whenever I need one I can pick one! One day a Nancy-hug, next day an Idril-hug and so on and so on ...)
To Nancy:
nice sayings - only one problem: I would love to know what the German saying would be ... :)
Re: It was just a question of time ...
enelya06 - 24.07.2007, 16:16
Yes we all have hugs baskets - a hug a day from each one.
I'd love to know what the german translations are to those too.
Re: It was just a question of time ...
newnativspirit - 24.07.2007, 17:56
LOL - great ! Whoīs gonna find out?
Re: It was just a question of time ...
Idril - 25.07.2007, 12:17
If you can tell us when you use those sayings we might be able to translate them/find the German sayings. :wink:
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